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JFly's avatar

Fourteen months ago, I suffered a tragic loss that resulted in profound grief. Most extended family members were not very supportive. They were grieving as well but they would say things to me like, "you should go talk to someone, I don't know how to help you but you need help." It was really hurtful. It made me feel like a freak. After 3 months of doing practically nothing, I decided I wanted to live. I joined a gym and attended fitness and yoga classes to restore my fitness but also as a way to pass the time with distractions (and with strangers who know nothing about me). Anyway, getting to the point in relation to your article, in the yoga classes I was doing there were periods of meditation. These were difficult at first because I thought I would just start to cry with all distraction suspended for those moments. Also, I didn't really relate to the "me centered" meditation. So I just started to pray. I prayed for myself sometimes but I also would focus on my closest loved ones. Just asking for comfort and wisdom and courage and so on and also expressing gratitude for them. And I've been praying ever since. I still get sad every day but I'm slowly recovering and along with the support of a few loved ones, the prayer is key. And now I focus on expanding my prayer beyond my grief and toward others who are facing difficulty. A good friend is having heart surgery today. Multiple jabs yet he seems clueless. I pray for his survival and recovery. I pray for his family.

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Carnivore Mama's avatar

Totally agree. Thank you to you and your cousin. I am a counsellor working in a body centred and transpersonal way. I recall, during my training in integrative counselling, that I was the only one in our cohort that was comfortable in the realm of the soul and spirit. Everyone else expressed fear of exploring the transpersonal with their future clients. Often, during our sessions, I would feel called to challenge the narratives being propogated by the tutors. It was educational, to say the least. I now witness first hand the harmful consequences of mainstream psychiatric meds (I support the bereaved) and doctors dishing out SSRIs like sweets... people on depression meds for 20 or even 30 years. They tend to be completely disconnected from their emotions, numbed and often suicidal (one of the known serious side effects). Now there is a group of critical psychiatrists whom are challenging their 'profession' like Joanna Moncrieff and Sami Timimi. More needs to be done.

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